You ever just get so tired of everything?

tater03 · 10-08-2006, 07:46 PM

Lately I have been having these days where I feel like I am being pulled in twenty different directions. It seems like someone is always needing something. I'm sorry but I want to scream when do I get what I want. If this helps explain this rant any, I am a stay at home mother raising two young sons. My husband works really hard so I can be home. But during the week it is all about school, dinner, paying bills, taking kids to practices. And then on the weekend of course my husband is tired and would like to relax, but so would I. Maybe it will get better when my youngest heads of to school? I hope. Thanks for letting me vent.

Alexa · 10-08-2006, 09:54 PM

Hmm. What can I say ? I have this project to work on since February. Things went slow till two weeks ago, as I had to wait for the others to finish their job, before my turn came. When my turn finally came, one of my collegue had a suddently indisposition and took 6 weeks of sick leave. My boss asked me to take care of her duties and gave my part of project to another collegue. Last week a second collegue got sick, so I had to take care of her job, too. Besides, I have a new collegue and she needed help too. Everything is URGENT in quality assuarance and everybody want their request to be executed *yesterday*, if not earlier.

On the other hand, one of the bridge in my corner collapsed, last Saturday. The traffic is a nightmare.

When I arrive exhausted at home in the evening, I have to cook, sometimes to shop before, to clean around, to listen members of my family who always know more than me. I really don't know how morning comes again and I have to deal with another day with all kind of urgencies and no time to rest. Than I have to think of those damn bills I have to pay for and programme them to be on time. And I could go like this for days.

I hope you'll feel better, tater03, after reading my vent, too.

Leto · 10-09-2006, 10:06 AM

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Originally Posted by tater03

Lately I have been having these days where I feel like I am being pulled in twenty different directions. It seems like someone is always needing something. I'm sorry but I want to scream when do I get what I want. If this helps explain this rant any, I am a stay at home mother raising two young sons. My husband works really hard so I can be home. But during the week it is all about school, dinner, paying bills, taking kids to practices. And then on the weekend of course my husband is tired and would like to relax, but so would I. Maybe it will get better when my youngest heads of to school? I hope. Thanks for letting me vent.

Can't you have your youngest baby-sitted (even by his big brother) a few hours a week to have time for yourself ?

brian · 10-09-2006, 01:02 PM

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Originally Posted by tater03

Lately I have been having these days where I feel like I am being pulled in twenty different directions. It seems like someone is always needing something. I'm sorry but I want to scream when do I get what I want. If this helps explain this rant any, I am a stay at home mother raising two young sons. My husband works really hard so I can be home. But during the week it is all about school, dinner, paying bills, taking kids to practices. And then on the weekend of course my husband is tired and would like to relax, but so would I. Maybe it will get better when my youngest heads of to school? I hope. Thanks for letting me vent.

Know exactly what you mean - very common - I think especially with having young children.

My girlfriend is always underlining the entire issue to me.

tater03 · 10-09-2006, 06:18 PM

Thank you all so much. It does help to see I am not the only one that feels like this at times. Right now I cannot have my oldest help watch his brother because they are at that stage where all they do is fight. I'm sure it's just emotional overload right this minute. Hopefully in a few days it will all look better. Thanks again and you all have a great day.

Lyricb · 10-10-2006, 05:13 AM

tater, you're not alone. My kids are 2 1/2 and 1, and you can imagine how my day goes. My husband complains that he doesn't get to relax, but in reality I haven't had a "day off" since the day my first child was born. *sigh* Anyhow, I hear it gets easier....

palefrost · 10-11-2006, 04:55 PM

I hear ya tater. I hate bothering my husband after work with some free time and the weekends i would like to take some time off myself. Its just a routine break you need and i can completely relate.

brian · 10-11-2006, 07:39 PM

Sorry - I may have sounded somewhat chauvinistic before - I do try to help.

Something she pushed on is to ensure we have time out for ourselves together. So on a Friday and Saturday, we put the kids to bed then get showered and dressed up, then spend the evening together - either just sat drinking and talking with some music on, or watch a film or a couple of TV programs from our DVD stack.

That way we at least ensure we have some quality time together as a couple, and also some unwind time.

Sure, with young kids around the peace sometimes gets broken, but they usually settle back to bed fine nowadays that they're older.

Anyway, hope that helps.

Melos · 10-12-2006, 03:48 PM

I completely understand what you are saying. I work at home, am divorced, homeschool my 2 boys, the youngest is autistic.

Whenever someone near me remark "I think I'll just take a nap this afternoon... I'm feeling lazy" I have to hold myself back from smacking them in a jealous rage.

palefrost · 10-15-2006, 06:56 PM

Some good ideas in this post. I try and take some alone time with the hubby when the kids go to bed. We have a set time we send them up. they dont have to sleep but they need to give mom and dad their time. lol.

10-08-2006, 07:46 PM	#1 (permalink)
tater03 Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 45	You ever just get so tired of everything? Lately I have been having these days where I feel like I am being pulled in twenty different directions. It seems like someone is always needing something. I'm sorry but I want to scream when do I get what I want. If this helps explain this rant any, I am a stay at home mother raising two young sons. My husband works really hard so I can be home. But during the week it is all about school, dinner, paying bills, taking kids to practices. And then on the weekend of course my husband is tired and would like to relax, but so would I. Maybe it will get better when my youngest heads of to school? I hope. Thanks for letting me vent.

10-08-2006, 09:54 PM	#2 (permalink)
Alexa Alien investigator Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 546	Re: You ever just get so tired of everything? Hmm. What can I say ? I have this project to work on since February. Things went slow till two weeks ago, as I had to wait for the others to finish their job, before my turn came. When my turn finally came, one of my collegue had a suddently indisposition and took 6 weeks of sick leave. My boss asked me to take care of her duties and gave my part of project to another collegue. Last week a second collegue got sick, so I had to take care of her job, too. Besides, I have a new collegue and she needed help too. Everything is URGENT in quality assuarance and everybody want their request to be executed yesterday, if not earlier. On the other hand, one of the bridge in my corner collapsed, last Saturday. The traffic is a nightmare. When I arrive exhausted at home in the evening, I have to cook, sometimes to shop before, to clean around, to listen members of my family who always know more than me. I really don't know how morning comes again and I have to deal with another day with all kind of urgencies and no time to rest. Than I have to think of those damn bills I have to pay for and programme them to be on time. And I could go like this for days. I hope you'll feel better, tater03, after reading my vent, too.

10-09-2006, 06:18 PM	#5 (permalink)
tater03 Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 45	Re: You ever just get so tired of everything? Thank you all so much. It does help to see I am not the only one that feels like this at times. Right now I cannot have my oldest help watch his brother because they are at that stage where all they do is fight. I'm sure it's just emotional overload right this minute. Hopefully in a few days it will all look better. Thanks again and you all have a great day.

10-10-2006, 05:13 AM	#6 (permalink)
Lyricb Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 45	Re: You ever just get so tired of everything? tater, you're not alone. My kids are 2 1/2 and 1, and you can imagine how my day goes. My husband complains that he doesn't get to relax, but in reality I haven't had a "day off" since the day my first child was born. sigh Anyhow, I hear it gets easier....

10-11-2006, 04:55 PM	#7 (permalink)
palefrost Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 22	Re: You ever just get so tired of everything? I hear ya tater. I hate bothering my husband after work with some free time and the weekends i would like to take some time off myself. Its just a routine break you need and i can completely relate.

10-11-2006, 07:39 PM	#8 (permalink)
brian Administrator Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 3,243	Re: You ever just get so tired of everything? Sorry - I may have sounded somewhat chauvinistic before - I do try to help. Something she pushed on is to ensure we have time out for ourselves together. So on a Friday and Saturday, we put the kids to bed then get showered and dressed up, then spend the evening together - either just sat drinking and talking with some music on, or watch a film or a couple of TV programs from our DVD stack. That way we at least ensure we have some quality time together as a couple, and also some unwind time. Sure, with young kids around the peace sometimes gets broken, but they usually settle back to bed fine nowadays that they're older. Anyway, hope that helps.

10-12-2006, 03:48 PM	#9 (permalink)
Melos Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 35	Re: You ever just get so tired of everything? I completely understand what you are saying. I work at home, am divorced, homeschool my 2 boys, the youngest is autistic. Whenever someone near me remark "I think I'll just take a nap this afternoon... I'm feeling lazy" I have to hold myself back from smacking them in a jealous rage.

10-15-2006, 06:56 PM	#10 (permalink)
palefrost Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 22	Re: You ever just get so tired of everything? Some good ideas in this post. I try and take some alone time with the hubby when the kids go to bed. We have a set time we send them up. they dont have to sleep but they need to give mom and dad their time. lol.