Deciding if it's time

[busybeehelpers]

Well my husband and I want to have another child. It is so hard knowing for sure if it is the time. We both feel it is but I don't want it to be too soon.

[etali]

How old are your other children? I think you'd probably find that when the next one came along it would be the 'right' time no matter what. If you can afford another child, and you love each other, then it will be OK

[cesc]

Well I'm only 18 so I can't say a thing on this matter...

[FourBear]

I don't have kids of my own yet, but I can say that the 4 year gap between my brother and I worked out pretty well, although I sometimes wished it was less!

[katharina]

Originally Posted by FourBear

I don't have kids of my own yet, but I can say that the 4 year gap between my brother and I worked out pretty well, although I sometimes wished it was less!

I have four sibs and there are just 10 years between the first and last, so we're close in age. I've always liked it that way. Like another poster said, if you are ready for another baby and can afford to have another child, it's something you have to decide with your partner and not worry about what others say.

[Eviesearth]

We waited 4 years between our oldest and youngest. It was a great time span. Now we are expecting our third. She will be 3 years younger than the middle baby. I like how we spaced them out. Some people like to have them closer together. We like to space them, you only have one in diapers at a time . Also, I felt that I was able to spend some quality mommy time with the second one as the older one was in school. Now the second baby will be in preschool so that I will be able to have alone mommy time with our third.

[mtatum4496]

It seems to me from your post that both you and your husband are in agreement about having another child and that both of you have a feeling that any time now would be fine. Why not go with that feeling and agree that since both of you feel the same way that you will let nature take its course, whether it be this year, next year, etc? The bottom line is both of you would be okay if tomorrow the doc said you were expecting and that means you are already in your hearts making room for another little one.

[luvcamerasnic]

Yes, if you are in agreement and in a position financially where it is possible, then you should go ahead! Remember, you may not get pregnant right away anyway.

[happy2bg33k]

My children are 6 years apart and I think it's much too large a gap in age. (I had 3 miscarriages in between them ) Sometimes I feel as though I am raising two separate families because their needs and interests are so drastically different. A lot of people say they want to wait until the time is right, they have more money, are more settled, etc. I think there's always probably something that would make it easier but if you wait for the PERFECT time it may never come.

[mamab]

I'm with everyone else. If you're both okay with the thought of another child, I don't see a problem. Of course if the previous child is less than a year, it might be considered too soon from a medical standpoint, but even then women have had children close together for years.