Divorce

[Lyricb]

When folks get married nowadays they're told they have a 50/50 chance of it working out. What a scary statistic! Do you think the divorce rate is high because divorce is more accepted, or instead because life is more complicated?

Check out this blurb I found online:

...people who decry the current divorce rate are missing the point; it is today at (or close to) its natural level. The lower divorce rates of the much-romanticized bygone years got that way because they were artifically depressed.
Alas, a blog » Blog Archive » Has Divorce Reached Its Natural Rate?

Now that's interesting...what do you all think?

[TinyStar]

The thing about divorce statistics is this: they don't take into account when the marriage began. Divorce statistics are calculated using the # of people who marry this year and the # who divorce this year. BUT not all people who marry this year will divorce this year as well. For an accurate statistic, one should compare all the people who married in, say, 1981 and what marriage out of THOSE ended in divorce.

[Sister]

My husband and I are in the second marriage for us both. For me, I got married when I was immature and my first husband was mentally ill. For my current husband, he got married because he thought that's what you did at that point in your life. To some degree, we both gave in to societal pressures and did what we thought we were supposed to do. And both of our first marriages were nightmares! I think the reason so many people get divorced is because they SHOULD!!!

[ninikins]

I am not so shocked by that 50-50% thing. Is there anything you can be absolutely a 100% sure about in life? Nope. same goes for marriage

[Melos]

I've always thought it was more because divorce is much more socially acceptable these days. I mean, people get divorced because "we're just not 'IN LOVE' anymore." Whether it is a natural thing or not I do not know.

[FourBear]

I don't think that a higher divorce rate is necessarily a bad thing. Years ago, it was dishonorable to become divorced. My stepfather's parents were married until his mother died, but his father was absolutely miserable. I take the high divorce rate to be a sign that more people are getting out of those sorts of situations.

[tater03]

I would have to agree that it has become more accepted. That and the fact that divorces are not hard to get anymore. I do think that the younger generation tends to give up on a marriage fairly easily. Now I am not saying in all cases.

[stephanie2377]

I, personally, believe that way back when... people (in general) spent a longer amount of time "courting" and choosing who they would marry. The man would ask for the woman's hand in marriage. It was a much longer process, and people didn't get married unless they were *sure* it was right.

I think nowadays... too many people get married too quickly because they think "Well, if it doesn't work, I can get divorced." Divorce *is* too easy, and too many marriages just end because neither party wants to work on it.

I know some divorces NEED to happen.. but, too many are happening. It is not good for the children involved.

[baileym1]

I guess the rate doesn't scare me either. I got married for the right reasons. If I ever get divorced, I am sure it will be for the right reasons as well.

[techluck]

I agree, divorce is more socially acceptable today and people give up too easily. I don't condone abuse or infidelity, etc., but sometimes I think things could be worked out. This coming from someone that went through two marriages quicker than automobiles in the '80's.