Preschool Teacher?

tater03 · 10-30-2006, 06:59 PM

Anyone ever have their child in a preschool and they just don't care for the teacher? I am having this problem this year. My sons teacher is a good teacher in the classroom but she is just terrible when it comes to interactions with the parents. She has this personality that when you approach her about something like you are bothering her. Like today when I asked her what time she wanted me there to help with the Halloween party she sighed and said "Didn't you get the memo we sent out?" Yes, I did but had misplaced it. The sighing is what got to me. This is not the first time I have noticed this and I have heard other parents say the same thing. But she is good with the kids in the classroom so I try to just overlook this aspect in her personality but sometimes it is just hard.

Melos · 10-31-2006, 02:45 PM

Well, I homeschool my children, so this is not a problem for me. However, I remember when I went to the kindergarten class meeting for my ex-step-daughter. The teacher was simply fabulous with the kids, but scowled and barked out short answers if the parents asked her anything. It made me feel like she resented the parent's involvement!

palefrost · 11-01-2006, 01:48 PM

My daughters second grade teacher last year was a real weirdo. She wanted to make my daughter skip out on recess and playing with the other kids because her homework wasn't done. It wasn't done because she never sent a homework assignment home in writing expecting a second grader to remember what she had to do.

I called and she was trying to say my daughter was disorganized and forgetful. I had to remind her these are learned skills and part of her job was not to lump her in with a bunch of kids and to help her where her weakness are. I even gave her the solution on how to fix the problem she was that stupid!

Nothing pisses off a parent more then to hear "i never had this problem with other students..." Listen dumb-ass not all kids are alike! Step out of the box! Your not a sheep herder!

eldragon · 11-01-2006, 02:03 PM

This reminds me of a pediatrician I once had in Las Vegas. She was an excellent doctor, but her people skills, or beside manner, were appalling. It was trying to deal with her, she always made me feel like a bad parent.

My daughter was an infant, toddler and pre-schooler when I brought her to this doctor, and she (my daughter) had many medical issues including heart disease, severe asthma, tubes in her ears, and meningitis, which put her in a coma. I had to see this pediatrician several times a week on some weeks, and sometimes twice a day. She would give me a prescription and tell me how to give the medicine and I would repeat her instructions; yet - when I returned on the next visiit - she would ask me if I had done as she told me - then repeat an entirely different regimen.

This happened over and over and over and sometimes I felt like crying, I was so upset. She was very forthright and rude to me. But, she was an excellent doctor and I decided to stick it out with her, although I did occasionally look for another pediatrician.

When my second daughter was born, I found another pediatrician recommended by friends, and although he was friendly and nice, he wasn't nearly as competant, and missed-diagnosed my second daughter when she had a bad urinary tract infection.

So - it's apples and oranges.

If the school teacher is doing excellently with the children in her class - just bite your tongue - the year will pass.

Slashmire · 11-12-2006, 04:43 PM

There's not much to teach in preschool that they won't learn in kindergarten, the morale of the teacher, in preschool that is, should be valued over her abilities to teach.

techluck · 11-12-2006, 05:46 PM

I feel if the child bonds and thrives with the teacher, sometimes it is worth the "extra mile" to try to work around their personality flaws as far as dealing with the parents. I once had a teacher (3rd grade) call me about my son, and although I found the conversation a bit critical toward me, it was very clear that she had my son's best interests as her top priority. In a way similar to the attachment and connection you have with your spouse, yet wonder how in the world did their parents end up with such a great person? LOL

Lyricb · 11-14-2006, 04:17 AM

It takes a special kind of nut to hang out with kids all day and not lose it...I guess maybe adults push people like this over the edge.

Alexa · 11-15-2006, 01:09 AM

I believe the personality of a teacher is very important for kids, no matter the grade. If a teacher loves kids and what he/she has to teach, than he/she could influence the kid in a future orientation of career. And if the kid loves that teacher, you can bet his/her subject will be his/her first choice for study at home. I really don't care about the relation parent-teacher, except when the kid has problems at school.

baileym1 · 11-15-2006, 04:01 AM

I can relate. As a teacher, more and more things are being forced upon us. Some days, it's just too much to deal with parents as well.

luvcamerasnic · 04-03-2007, 01:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Melos

Well, I homeschool my children, so this is not a problem for me. However, I remember when I went to the kindergarten class meeting for my ex-step-daughter. The teacher was simply fabulous with the kids, but scowled and barked out short answers if the parents asked her anything. It made me feel like she resented the parent's involvement!

That's sad. I am a teacher, and a big part of the job is interacting with parents. I say to the original poster, get a new teacher if you can.

10-30-2006, 06:59 PM	#1 (permalink)
tater03 Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 34	Preschool Teacher? Anyone ever have their child in a preschool and they just don't care for the teacher? I am having this problem this year. My sons teacher is a good teacher in the classroom but she is just terrible when it comes to interactions with the parents. She has this personality that when you approach her about something like you are bothering her. Like today when I asked her what time she wanted me there to help with the Halloween party she sighed and said "Didn't you get the memo we sent out?" Yes, I did but had misplaced it. The sighing is what got to me. This is not the first time I have noticed this and I have heard other parents say the same thing. But she is good with the kids in the classroom so I try to just overlook this aspect in her personality but sometimes it is just hard.

10-31-2006, 02:45 PM	#2 (permalink)
Melos Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 35	Re: Preschool Teacher? Well, I homeschool my children, so this is not a problem for me. However, I remember when I went to the kindergarten class meeting for my ex-step-daughter. The teacher was simply fabulous with the kids, but scowled and barked out short answers if the parents asked her anything. It made me feel like she resented the parent's involvement!

11-01-2006, 01:48 PM	#3 (permalink)
palefrost Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 22	Re: Preschool Teacher? My daughters second grade teacher last year was a real weirdo. She wanted to make my daughter skip out on recess and playing with the other kids because her homework wasn't done. It wasn't done because she never sent a homework assignment home in writing expecting a second grader to remember what she had to do. I called and she was trying to say my daughter was disorganized and forgetful. I had to remind her these are learned skills and part of her job was not to lump her in with a bunch of kids and to help her where her weakness are. I even gave her the solution on how to fix the problem she was that stupid! Nothing pisses off a parent more then to hear "i never had this problem with other students..." Listen dumb-ass not all kids are alike! Step out of the box! Your not a sheep herder!

11-01-2006, 02:03 PM	#4 (permalink)
eldragon Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 22	Re: Preschool Teacher? This reminds me of a pediatrician I once had in Las Vegas. She was an excellent doctor, but her people skills, or beside manner, were appalling. It was trying to deal with her, she always made me feel like a bad parent. My daughter was an infant, toddler and pre-schooler when I brought her to this doctor, and she (my daughter) had many medical issues including heart disease, severe asthma, tubes in her ears, and meningitis, which put her in a coma. I had to see this pediatrician several times a week on some weeks, and sometimes twice a day. She would give me a prescription and tell me how to give the medicine and I would repeat her instructions; yet - when I returned on the next visiit - she would ask me if I had done as she told me - then repeat an entirely different regimen. This happened over and over and over and sometimes I felt like crying, I was so upset. She was very forthright and rude to me. But, she was an excellent doctor and I decided to stick it out with her, although I did occasionally look for another pediatrician. When my second daughter was born, I found another pediatrician recommended by friends, and although he was friendly and nice, he wasn't nearly as competant, and missed-diagnosed my second daughter when she had a bad urinary tract infection. So - it's apples and oranges. If the school teacher is doing excellently with the children in her class - just bite your tongue - the year will pass.

11-12-2006, 04:43 PM	#5 (permalink)
Slashmire Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 26	Re: Preschool Teacher? There's not much to teach in preschool that they won't learn in kindergarten, the morale of the teacher, in preschool that is, should be valued over her abilities to teach.

11-12-2006, 05:46 PM	#6 (permalink)
techluck Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 29	Re: Preschool Teacher? I feel if the child bonds and thrives with the teacher, sometimes it is worth the "extra mile" to try to work around their personality flaws as far as dealing with the parents. I once had a teacher (3rd grade) call me about my son, and although I found the conversation a bit critical toward me, it was very clear that she had my son's best interests as her top priority. In a way similar to the attachment and connection you have with your spouse, yet wonder how in the world did their parents end up with such a great person? LOL

11-14-2006, 04:17 AM	#7 (permalink)
Lyricb Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 45	Re: Preschool Teacher? It takes a special kind of nut to hang out with kids all day and not lose it...I guess maybe adults push people like this over the edge.

11-15-2006, 01:09 AM	#8 (permalink)
Alexa Alien investigator Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 546	Re: Preschool Teacher? I believe the personality of a teacher is very important for kids, no matter the grade. If a teacher loves kids and what he/she has to teach, than he/she could influence the kid in a future orientation of career. And if the kid loves that teacher, you can bet his/her subject will be his/her first choice for study at home. I really don't care about the relation parent-teacher, except when the kid has problems at school.

11-15-2006, 04:01 AM	#9 (permalink)
baileym1 Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 21	Re: Preschool Teacher? I can relate. As a teacher, more and more things are being forced upon us. Some days, it's just too much to deal with parents as well.