Nosey friends - Page 2

mtatum4496 · 11-14-2006, 08:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Plumley

I forget if it was Ann Landers or Dear Abby but one of them suggested, when a person asks a rude question, just respond by asking why she needs to know. I'm with Melos, though. If I'm not happy being with someone, she's not my friend and I don't particularly want to spend time with her.

Probably both of them. I recall Ann Landers replying to this question once, saying that you should look the person squarely in the eye, say "Why would you like to know?" Some folks at this point will be tongue-tied for a moment, unsure since they are not used to being asked that question.

If the person is not taken aback or does not get the hint that they need to MYOB, then give them one more chance to get out of the situation gracefully by introducing a different subject.

Should the individual still be so bone headed as to insist on an answer, simply state "I do not wish to discuss the matter", wish them a good day, and walk away.

snoopy · 11-15-2006, 01:07 AM

Well, in short, I wouldnt grade nosey people as friends. Friends will not be nosey, I mean, genuine friends know its best to keep the slight distance that is necessary for a blasting friendship. Each one has his own space and good friends respect that little space. People can be nosey, but not friends.

mtatum4496 · 11-15-2006, 07:19 PM

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Originally Posted by snoopy

Well, in short, I wouldnt grade nosey people as friends. Friends will not be nosey, I mean, genuine friends know its best to keep the slight distance that is necessary for a blasting friendship. Each one has his own space and good friends respect that little space. People can be nosey, but not friends.

Oh, I don't know about that. Some people are naturally inquisitive. Unfortunately, when that is combined with a lack of social grace, you end up with someone whose first impulse is to consider everyone's business their business.

I do have some people in my life with very good qualities, other than their nosiness. Of course, they've had to learn to curb that predilection when interacting with me

etali · 04-09-2007, 06:01 PM

I have a friend like that about some things. Thankfully they aren't like that about every aspect of my life, but sometimes they really get on my nerves. Usually I just smile politely and get on with things my own way.

If they were too bad I don't think they'd be my friend much longer.

11-15-2006, 01:07 AM	#12 (permalink)
snoopy Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 10	Re: Nosey friends Well, in short, I wouldnt grade nosey people as friends. Friends will not be nosey, I mean, genuine friends know its best to keep the slight distance that is necessary for a blasting friendship. Each one has his own space and good friends respect that little space. People can be nosey, but not friends.

04-09-2007, 06:01 PM	#14 (permalink)
etali Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 31	Re: Nosey friends I have a friend like that about some things. Thankfully they aren't like that about every aspect of my life, but sometimes they really get on my nerves. Usually I just smile politely and get on with things my own way. If they were too bad I don't think they'd be my friend much longer.