In laws

Living Brian · 08-06-2006, 10:09 AM

I'm not married, so my girlfriend's parents aren't technically "in-laws" - but unlike the stereotype, I've always been able to get along with them.

They're as old as my own grandparents, but they live young - they're always out walking, and her mum - at 70 - not only has a Playstation, but plays on it regularly.

Probably that means there are lenty of ways to connect personably, and it's always relaxing to have them around - they stayed last week and it's a genuine shame they had to leave.

I've even suggested before that they sell their house, and we put money to it so that we can buy a really big house we can only live in comfortably. Unfortunately, in that regard, they're happy living where they are, and have no wish to endure moving to a completely different area.

Still, anyone else here really get on with their in Laws? Anyone here really *not* get on with their in-Laws?

Leto · 08-23-2006, 02:41 PM

I've married the only human being out of a whole Vogon family, so no I don't get on with them. Just survive without clashing all the time with most of them.

These guys are pure aliens to me in almost every aspect. A recent example ? My sister-in-law expect us to cat-sit her pet for free for several days at her place (1/2 hour drive from here, means losing at least one and half an hour a day) but already stated that she want to be paid to baby-sit her future nephew or niece for a few hours in the evening.

Living Brian · 08-26-2006, 02:00 PM

Sounds like room for negotiation there.

Lyricb · 10-02-2006, 01:53 PM

My in-laws are pretty nutty, but to be fair my family is nutty too so my husband and I are in a similar boat.

eldragon · 10-24-2006, 01:39 PM

In-laws are rough people to understand, thats for sure. Mother-n-laws and daughter-n-laws have exceedingly hard relationships sometimes. It seems like the guys get one better, usually.

I get along very well with my mother-n-law despite the fact that we do not speak a common language and she lived with us for months at a time when my daughter was a baby. She's a very sweet woman. I'm lucky, I know.

My brother-n-law is a different story. We have had enormous problems in the past. He is so critical of everything, and very negative.

Melos · 10-24-2006, 01:46 PM

I did not have a problem with my in-laws when I was married. In fact, they liked me a heck of a lot better than they liked their own son, and usually took my side in everything. (Not that I was trying to get them to take sides!). My mother-in-law died a while back, but I'm still in contact with my ex-dad-in-law.

palefrost · 10-25-2006, 07:47 PM

Well thanksgiving is coming and i have to do the in laws. One set is very born again christian and if you know anything about them they love to convert! Ive never seen a group so committed to saving a soul. Its annoying! I wish i could say some magic words to make them stop but they just want to talk about "god" or how they perceive god and the whole holiday is spent on the topic. UGH!

Ive come to terms with god and im private about my spiritual beliefs. I dont feel its right to convert or speak about something i hold sacred to me. They just dont seem to get that.

eldragon · 10-26-2006, 12:03 PM

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Originally Posted by palefrost

Well thanksgiving is coming and i have to do the in laws. One set is very born again christian and if you know anything about them they love to convert! Ive never seen a group so committed to saving a soul. Its annoying! I wish i could say some magic words to make them stop but they just want to talk about "god" or how they perceive god and the whole holiday is spent on the topic. UGH!

Ive come to terms with god and im private about my spiritual beliefs. I dont feel its right to convert or speak about something i hold sacred to me. They just dont seem to get that.

That would be annoying no matter what the relation. How does your spouse feel about it?

I avoid people like that completely. They do not respect my own beliefs, why should I respect theres?

Living Brian · 10-30-2006, 10:36 AM

I run a religion forum, and some of the Born Agains can be the worst. What's annoying is that they walk in with a martyr syndrome expecting to be banned anyway, so they don't care what the rules are, just so long as they "do god's work" with a proverbial sledgehammer.

Lyricb · 10-30-2006, 07:33 PM

Some of us Born Agains aren't so bad, though, to be fair. Then again, I agree with you that many of them are a little too pushy. That would be super hard to deal with if it was an in-law!

08-06-2006, 10:09 AM	#1 (permalink)
Living Brian Administrator Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 3,213	In laws I'm not married, so my girlfriend's parents aren't technically "in-laws" - but unlike the stereotype, I've always been able to get along with them. They're as old as my own grandparents, but they live young - they're always out walking, and her mum - at 70 - not only has a Playstation, but plays on it regularly. Probably that means there are lenty of ways to connect personably, and it's always relaxing to have them around - they stayed last week and it's a genuine shame they had to leave. I've even suggested before that they sell their house, and we put money to it so that we can buy a really big house we can only live in comfortably. Unfortunately, in that regard, they're happy living where they are, and have no wish to endure moving to a completely different area. Still, anyone else here really get on with their in Laws? Anyone here really not get on with their in-Laws?

08-23-2006, 02:41 PM	#2 (permalink)
Leto Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 704	Re: In laws I've married the only human being out of a whole Vogon family, so no I don't get on with them. Just survive without clashing all the time with most of them. These guys are pure aliens to me in almost every aspect. A recent example ? My sister-in-law expect us to cat-sit her pet for free for several days at her place (1/2 hour drive from here, means losing at least one and half an hour a day) but already stated that she want to be paid to baby-sit her future nephew or niece for a few hours in the evening.

08-26-2006, 02:00 PM	#3 (permalink)
Living Brian Administrator Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 3,213	Re: In laws Sounds like room for negotiation there.

10-02-2006, 01:53 PM	#4 (permalink)
Lyricb Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 45	Re: In laws My in-laws are pretty nutty, but to be fair my family is nutty too so my husband and I are in a similar boat.

10-24-2006, 01:39 PM	#5 (permalink)
eldragon Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 22	Re: In laws In-laws are rough people to understand, thats for sure. Mother-n-laws and daughter-n-laws have exceedingly hard relationships sometimes. It seems like the guys get one better, usually. I get along very well with my mother-n-law despite the fact that we do not speak a common language and she lived with us for months at a time when my daughter was a baby. She's a very sweet woman. I'm lucky, I know. My brother-n-law is a different story. We have had enormous problems in the past. He is so critical of everything, and very negative.

10-24-2006, 01:46 PM	#6 (permalink)
Melos Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 35	Re: In laws I did not have a problem with my in-laws when I was married. In fact, they liked me a heck of a lot better than they liked their own son, and usually took my side in everything. (Not that I was trying to get them to take sides!). My mother-in-law died a while back, but I'm still in contact with my ex-dad-in-law.

10-25-2006, 07:47 PM	#7 (permalink)
palefrost Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 22	Re: In laws Well thanksgiving is coming and i have to do the in laws. One set is very born again christian and if you know anything about them they love to convert! Ive never seen a group so committed to saving a soul. Its annoying! I wish i could say some magic words to make them stop but they just want to talk about "god" or how they perceive god and the whole holiday is spent on the topic. UGH! Ive come to terms with god and im private about my spiritual beliefs. I dont feel its right to convert or speak about something i hold sacred to me. They just dont seem to get that.

10-30-2006, 10:36 AM	#9 (permalink)
Living Brian Administrator Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 3,213	Re: In laws I run a religion forum, and some of the Born Agains can be the worst. What's annoying is that they walk in with a martyr syndrome expecting to be banned anyway, so they don't care what the rules are, just so long as they "do god's work" with a proverbial sledgehammer.

10-30-2006, 07:33 PM	#10 (permalink)
Lyricb Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 45	Re: In laws Some of us Born Agains aren't so bad, though, to be fair. Then again, I agree with you that many of them are a little too pushy. That would be super hard to deal with if it was an in-law!